We all go through slumps and need some help every now and again. Charles Barkley will perpetually need golf lessons, and I’m sure a young LeBron James got some tips from an AAU coach regarding his jumper.
Martha Stewart surely has received a recipe for some dish that she just couldn’t get right. Stevie Wonder must’ve needed help on writing a song or two after getting writer’s block.
No matter how good you may be at something, a tip can always help you get better. A lot of us aren’t the Martha or LeBron of the dating world, but I have some tips that’ll surely improve your dating game and end that single streak that you’re not really willing to discuss at length.
Even if you just went on a date and it went pretty well, there most likely is a place where you could improve. It doesn’t matter if you’re great; you can always get better.
Tiger Woods is an incredible golfer but he’s built, destroyed, and rebuilt his swing countless times, always looking for that perfect mix that will help him earn more trophies and ensure his greatness. Russell Westbrook could use some tips to improve his three point percentage, and he’s an absolutely elite athlete and of a caliber that has rarely been seen in the history of the world.
What I’m getting at is that we can all use a little help, even if we think we don’t need it. Maybe a little tip can make you go from great to iconic.
Most of us could use some help to increase our success when it comes to dating, and with these tips you surely can change your momentum around and have some fun dates, if nothing else.
Thus, I’ve curated a list of 5 tips that will improve your dating game, featured below.
1: Don’t think of some line to say to her. Let’s say you’re at a bar with a friend of the same sex for a few drinks to welcome the weekend.
Suddenly, you see this beautiful woman across the room that you feel you have to talk to. If you want to fail from the first step, use some cheesy line that you heard on Spike last Tuesday.
If you want to make this girl wonder where you’ve been all her life, you need to come up cold and just be direct (without being a douche, though). “I saw you and couldn’t deal with myself if I didn’t come over to you; can I buy you a drink?” will suffice.
If you used some dumb line, she’s going to mentally (or physically) roll her eyes and pretend like she’s listening to your dumbass. If you approach her like she’s a real human being, you’ll have piqued her interest and stand a much better chance of getting her number.
Girls like guys who can be spontaneous or improvise, and having the courage to go and do this cold will make this evident to her and it definitely won’t work against you.
2: Know who you want before you even meet. It happens to the best of us; we think we know who/what we want in someone, find someone who we think has those traits, and then for some reason, it doesn’t work out.
We run through many reasons why the relationship didn’t work out in our heads, but never really locate a definite source of the problem. You may have some ideas, but nothing definite.
To clear this up, list some attributes that you did and didn’t like in some of the last couple people you’ve dated. Are there any similarities?
Take those traits and know them front to back; you’ll need to be on alert for people who show the ones you don’t like so you can avoid them. Keep your eye out for people that show the ones you like, but don’t overlook any negatives; no need to go through that again.
3: Add an extra step to your dates. Sure, your date idea of going to that nice restaurant is fine, but it could use a little kick.
Now, I don’t mean go from the restaurant straight to the airport to go sky-diving. What I really mean is add another activity to your date.
A good idea would be to suggest going on a walk through a park and then grabbing coffee, or visiting an art show and then getting a bite to eat.
Something short and sweet should be done first, followed by something a bit more intimate. This allows you two to be informal and fun and then a bit more serious.
Not to mention it’ll help your nerves by having a little warmup, if you find yourself nervous before a date.
4: Speaking of dates…
You might think treating some lucky lady to a date at a fancy restaurant is a great, fool-proof plan. It’s certainly not bad, but you might be coating the intimacy on a little heavy for the beginning of a potential relationship.
Instead, keep it simple and informal; you’re just getting to know one another, after all.
Now, I don’t mean grabbing a slice of pizza is a great idea, because it’s not. Take her somewhere nice but casual; someplace that isn’t too big and isn’t too busy.
You’ll want to find a place that allows you to be casual and relaxed, but quiet enough so that the intimacy of the date isn’t lost.
Once you’ve been on a few dates and they went well, then you can reserve a table in that nice restaurant you’ve been eyeing for a few months.
5: Make her feel comfortable, make her laugh, make her smile.
Everyone is a little nervous or anxious before a date; it’s just natural. If you can ease her nerves or do something to make her feel safe and comfortable with you, that can go a long way.
If you can make her laugh, you’ve earned major bonus points in her eyes. Her body language will say more than her words will at this point, so look for signs that she’s really into you (playing with her hair, looking directly at you, touching your hand, etc.).
At the end of your first date, she’s going to look back on it immediately (duh) and if she felt comfortable with you, laughed, and smiled, she’s going to want to see you again. And again.
Just be yourself and make her feel at home with you. This is more important than some pickup line or obvious confidence- you’re better than those guys, and she’s only looking your way; you know what to do now, so go find her.